Hi there, when we are going through life changing dilemmas or facing "the usual" problems in life it is undeniably tempting to go on and on about it for weeks to anyone who would listen because it makes us feel better to seek acceptance and approval of our decision by various individuals. I'm not going to go all saint on you and say I've never done it before, come on man at the end of the day I'm only human. I do it too, but to be really honest with you I'm trying to break off this self destructive habit.
Now don't get me wrong, if there's something bothering you the most rational thing to do is talk about it, get the weight off your chest, and seek a solution or perhaps, a sinful amount of other possibilities as well (you know just in case) but the most important question here is for how long?
There's only so many times you can rant about your so called the-end-of-the-world problems before people get tired of you and cut you off because all you have to offer them are your own pathetic problems. One thing we have to realize is the world doesn't revolve around us and the "problems" aren't actually real problems, it's all in your mind, you inflating it with your own worries, making a mountain out of a molehill and I know this might not be easy for some of you out there because how on earth people stay calm, right? For those people, I'd take this opportunity to say don't fret for you are not alone. Just take a couple of deep, cleansing breathes and think of a way to pull yourself out of the mess because everything, I repeat, everything has a solution. You just have to find it and apply it to your life, easier said than done but nothing worth ever comes easy, right?
Please do correct me if I'm wrong but the most constructive way to lead our life is by not being daunted by our demons, we have to have the guts to face it head on even though there's nothing wrong in crying, crawling through the ordeal, or confiding in people. I'm just saying when we confide in people (mostly the ones whom we trust) just let it all out once and for all and never go there more than twice and list down all the possible solutions to get the hell out of the issue which is bothering you. No harm in going back to list down a fresh set of solutions though, just make sure you limit your rants to just once, pour a rain even for a whole day but once you're done, you're done.
This is because 'over-ranting' things not only irritate people (if you don't care about that), it also launches an avalanche of negatives on your life and as you keep listing down the same old negative things, life will have many other negatives in store for you and we wonder why life is a bitch, the irony deserves an extra sarcastic smirk. I'm not telling you how to live your life, of course, that's totally up to you, accepting or rebutting what I'm saying is completely subjective, but I'm just saying it's pretty much self-destructive for the negativity and hurt you hold within you will only burn you back. The key to all of your problems is not rants but solutions.
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